Category: Blaugust

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Motivation isn’t everything

I had a plan. I did. Life doesn’t always work that way when I am not in charge of it. I don’t get to dictate how my day goes. My control is limited. But I do my best to make it work.

A sleep disruption for my kid was caused by five weeks of autistic masking during major housework. I ended up at the ER early last week, requiring a scope. This event messed me up, both physically and mentally. I am the person who has every side effect listed on the medication. Blogging for this month needed to be shelved because my health didn’t let me get my thoughts out coherently.

This past week for Blaugust was “Motivation Week,” when we were meant to discuss the what, why, and how we stay motivated. I realized I do not lack motivation. I lack the time to act on my motivation. I have to say no to more than I would like to say yes to the essential things.

I have learned over Blaugust to embrace my limitations. I can’t do it all. One time a week for a blog post or a stream on YouTube is good enough. Simply showing up is good enough. I am a Dad who needs to be here for his kid 12 hours a day. I can’t do the creator/influencer thing I once thought I could. Working within our parameters and nudging the edge to see how much we can push it works. The key is knowing the breaking point.

I learned this the hard way while lying in the hospital.

Motivation doesn’t have to mean you do everything. It just means you can show up when you are ready.

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Online Creation in 2023

It is Creator Appreciation Week for Blaugust. A year ago, this post would have been easy. I’d make a list of all my favourite people on Twitter. Now, Twitter is X. The place is a shell of its old self, and I am no longer using it.

Some remain at the former bird site. Many are scattering for a new home. Some land on Blue Sky, which is locked behind invites. Others, like me, have moved to Mastodon, a place with its own onboarding issues. Threads isn’t going to move the needle until it is in the EU. TikTok is a mess – the shotgun-at-the-wall approach to social sharing.

The forced fragmenting of the social internet by companies looking for more money makes it difficult to follow and keep up with people with whom I used to invest a lot of time.

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Parent of a PDA Kid

I find it fitting that during Introduction Week of Blaugust, I would need to take time away from daily blogging.

Hi, my name is Jesse, and I am the full-time parent to an autistic kid with Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA).

I have never said that on the internet before. But it feels like it is finally time to discuss what is happening during these moments when I need to disappear. Because it helps make sense of why I can go a month of streaming non-stop into being unable to create content for weeks on end.

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Mastodon and Why You Should Be There

If you are a person who enjoys sharing your interests, you’ll do fine on Mastodon, and I suggest you should join. Like right now. Do it.

That’s my pitch. Mastodon is a place for people to connect without the influence of algorithms to support billionaires’ financial interests or the late-stage capitalist ad market.

I highly doubt I would be participating in Blaugust if I hadn’t jumped to Mastodon last year.

A cartoon planet with a river in the shape of a Y. small mastodon walking around it. Words under the planet read: Independent always Mastodon is free and open-source software developed by a non-profit organization. Public support directly sustains development and evolution.

Sound good? Let’s make it easy for you to join, too.

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